Relationship Burn Out.

Relationships are not easy, although we all want them to be.

With two people, comes two different attutides, approaches and experiences that come together.

When the honeymoon is over and the hormones settle down, what is left, is two people who want to feel loved, heard, appreciated and supported

When we think of burnout, we don’t usually think of our relationship and how it can cause us fatigue.

Relationship burnout is real.

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Differences become more recognised, the mask comes off and insecurities arise. This is totally normal. These parts of ourselves should be recognised and celebrated. Honesty is more attractive than telling someone what you think they want to hear. If you need to constantly do this to feel loved in the relationship, then work needs to be done by both parties.

Work also needs to happen alone. Self-growth, self-love and a willingness to be better.

When we live in a relationship that feels like groundhog day, looping around without the happy feelings, the effort takes its toll on mental health and we end up with relationship burnout.

We are exhausted. Sick of the loop of negativity and loss of love and support. Usually, the love and support is still there, but not recognised. Your partner might be showing support in their way, not yours. They are doing all they know to help. As you are for them, or not for them, without noticing how you push them aside.

They too might be feeling lost in the relationship and feel like they have lost their mojo to keep going or enjoy it. When the work becomes too much and the mental and emotional load is exhausting, people feel they are not good enough, sexy enough, happy enough or able to keep their partner satisfied or happy. You cannot make your partner happy or fill those roles of ‘doing’ for them. They must find that within themselves and you should too. Then you can both bring a fresh, supported and happier view to the relationship and invigorate it.

Easier said than done, right? Yep!

But when you understand each other on a higher level, look with fresh eyes, learn how to communicate more intimately, learn the art of supporting, and figure out that your sex life can be great again, everything will change. You will both grow together, feel supported and loved and be the best versions of yourself, all while having a less stressful relationship that won’t feel hard.

The success of this process comes down to two things.

1. Both parties must want to change and grow

2. Both parties must accept their role in the decline of the relationship

If this happens, everything CAN change and you can fall in love with each other all over again.

Now , wouldn’t that be the best xmas present!

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Having the relationship you want is worth it, for you, your partner, your marriage, your kids.